Picture in your minds little boys and little girls whose parents have already started grooming them to get into one of the most prestigious colleges in America. The only trouble with this goal is that the elite universities are turning down from 70 to 95 percent of their applicants. A second hindrance is that more students are unable to attend their first school of choice because of money. College is incredibly expensive now, and who knows what four years of higher education will cost in 15 years. The debt incurred by many students now is staggering.

Frank Bruni, a bestselling author and columnist for The New York Times, is fed up with the present-day college admissions systeme and the depression, anger, and loss it brings to parents and their college-bound sons or daughters. He suggests that parents and their offspring dump the idea that getting into an elite college is the best thing that could happen. That's just wrong, he says; "A good student can get a good education anywhere." Secondly, employers do not care what college the job applicant attended but are more interested in the kind of person they are.

Forget about the brands and think about college as a grand adventure because you have made it into one. Here's a book that belongs on the coffee table of every family preparing to enter the college admissions war. It's message is clear: Lay down your arms and reframe your ideas about success and failure, winners and losers, and the American Dream!