When we judge a person quickly and discard him because he does not meet a preconceived notion we have, we are short-circuiting our own ability to find love. When we have the patience to allow time for who he truly is to be revealed, there will be many surprises and we will be expanding the circle of people who may enter our lives.
In a similar vein, when we are in a relationship that started out beautifully and it begins to go through a difficult time, we must realize that this is the natural course of many relationships and does not necessarily mean it's time to leave. Develop the patience to wait until the choppy waters have stilled and you can both see clearly what's really going on.
— Brenda Shoshanna in Zen and the Art of Falling in Love