A great rabbi and tzaddik of our time has said that he feels that methods of direct God-consciousness in conversation make it seem as if talking to people is not in itself good enough — but it is.
Perhaps one reconciliation of the two attitudes is to take the view that the person you are speaking to is in the image of God, or (much the same) a son or daughter of God, and that you should speak to him or her with the greatest love and reverence. As it says in Or ha-Ganuz l'Tzaddikim:
You should speak with your fellow-man with great reverence and love, as if you were speaking with the Holy One, blessed be He. When you see any person, imagine the Being of God and His effulgent light flooding through him to you.