[This] practice helps with chronic difficulties of the type we all like to complain and gossip about: a relative or friend who is always getting on our nerves, a family responsibility that is getting us down -- the kind of thing that has us already narrating the story to a confidante in our heads while we're still actually with the person we're complaining about. When I catch myself doing this, I stop the inner narration, gaze consciously at the person I'm with, and in my heart I say Hineini, here I am -- and here you are, and here God is.The effect is miraculous. I relax, the other person relaxes, and the difficult moment passes. Try it -- you will like it!
— Kathleen Schmitt Elias in Out of Darkness Into Light: Spiritual Guidance in the Quran with Reflections from Christian and Jewish Sources by Jamal Rahman, Kathleen Schmitt Elias, Ann Holmes ReddingChronic Difficult Encounters
