• Notice your natural experience of "I," as in "I want this," "I do not want that."
  • Recognize that it is natural to want happiness and to not want pain. This is valid, and does not require further justification.
  • Based on this natural desire, you have the right to obtain happiness and to get rid of suffering.
  • Just as you have this right, so do others, and in equal measure.
  • Consider the fact that the difference between yourself and others is only that you are just one single person, whereas there are countless other living beings on this planet alone.
  • Pose this question: Should I use every living being to attain my happiness, or should I help others gain happiness?
  • Imagine yourself, calm and reasonable, looking to your right at another version of yourself – but this self is overly proud, never thinking of the welfare of others, concerned only with her or her own self.
  • On your left, visualize a number of destitute people unrelated to you, in need and in pain.
  • You, in the middle, are an unbiased, sensible person. Consider that those people on both sides of you want happiness and want to get rid of pain; in this way, they are equal, the same.
  • But think: The selfishly motivated person on the right is just one person, whereas the others are far greater in number. Which side is more important, the one with the single, self-centered person, or the vast group of poor, helpless people?
  • To which side will you devote your energies? As the unbiased person in the middle, you will naturally favor the greater number of suffering people.
  • Reflect on this thought: If I, as just one person, take advantage of the many, it would be truly contrary to my humanity, and to common sense. To sacrifice a lot for the sake of a little is foolish.
  • Thinking this way, you will decide: I am going to direct my energies to the many rather than to this one selfish person.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama in How to Be Compassionate