I think there are times when anger is appropriate, such as when you are not treated with respect. When you cannot release anger, it hurts you more than the person you are angry at. When you cannot let go of bitterness, resentment, and aggravation over whatever has happened, then you allow it to continue to damage your life.

Your thoughts are what control the outcome. Read letters to the editors of daily papers, and you will learn what bothers everyone. Rarely do you see a letter expressing thanks or reflecting on a pleasant experience. By your anger you make clear who you are and what you believe in.

Almost invariably, people's unhealthy anger is about principles and rules of behavior that they are having trouble with. The best advice I can give is this: stop writing angry letters about what a good person should do, and be one instead. Stop criticizing, and be the person you wish everyone else to be.

Soulution of the Day: Right beliefs are one thing, but right action is everything.

Bernie S. Siegel in 365 Prescriptions for the Soul