Sit opposite someone close to you.
This could be your intimate partner, or a friend.
Look into each other's left eye.
Look not just at your partner's eye, but through the eye,
Into that which is looking back at you.
In this moment, something, someone is looking back at you.
What is that?
What is looking back through this eye and seeing you?
Stay present.
Keep the gaze with this left eye and keep inquiring,
Who am I meeting here?
Who is looking back at me?
What is it, who is it, I am meeting here?
Deeper than thoughts,
Deeper than feelings,
Who is this other?

Our usual habit is to feel everyone and everything as separate, and therefore to act and speak strategically. As long as we are held in the grip of separation, even when we are trying to be altruistic, we are still driven by the obsession with "me." How do I fulfill my needs? What am I feeling? How can I express my truth? It is, in fact, this underlying feeling of separation that causes us suffering in relationships, more than who said or did what to whom.

Arjuna Ardagh in Leap Before You Look