Seven step vehicle for developing love: Recognizing friends. Appreciating Kindness, Returning Kindness, Learning to Love, The Power of Compassion, Seeking Alruistic Enlightenment. Practice prior to the seven stages deals with overcoming our natural tendency to put others into categories (such as friend and foe) emphasize our sense of equality.
— His Holiness The Dalai Lama, How to Expand Love