"Another helpful set of principles that overlap somewhat with the ten above (see list in the review] is easy to remember because each one begins with the letter c. Since it is C-state we seek, consider these c's:

"1. Connect: By connecting with the people and projects that matter most to you, you create an emotional atmosphere at home, at work, and wherever else you go. Connecting with others is also the best way to reduce worry. It is fine to worry, just try never to worry alone.

"2. Control: Control your technology — cell phone, e-mail, and the like — don't let it control you. Develop a system that works for you — when you take calls, how you prioritize e-mails, and so on.

"3. Cancel: People —; and organizations — add activities, but they rarely subtract. It may seem difficult at first, but if you get in the habit of canceling what doesn't really matter, you'll be amazed at how much better you feel and how much more energy you have. Try to think of at least one activity, meeting, or event you can cancel right now. Pare down your life to its best.

"4. Create: Create structures and systems in your life that help you get organized. This might mean a new filing system, or a personal assistant you hire for five hours a week to do errands, or a part of an evening you set aside solely for conversation with your spouse, or a time you book into your schedule for exercise.

"5. Care: Decide what you care most about. You do not have time for everything you care about, so you must prioritize. If you don't do this consciously, you will do it unconsciously simply because what you care about exceeds the time you have to devote to each item on your list.

"6. Cultivate: Cultivate your lilies and discard your leeches. To do this you must take what the people in AA call a fearless inventory, but in this case it is not of yourself but of your life. What do you want to do more of? What do you want to do less of? Figure that out, then do it."