Use the phrase "just like me" to signify your unity with others. Whenever you find yourself making an assessment of another person, whether you are saying something critical or something complimentary, right after you think or say it, add the statement "just like me." For example, "My partner is so stubborn, just like me." "My friend is so generous with her time, just like me." "She holds too many grudges, just like me." "He is so creative, just like me."
As you include yourself in these judgements and evaluations, notice what comes up for you. When you include yourself in a compliment or criticism, how do you feel? How does this practice influence your thoughts about yourself? Others?— Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat in Spiritual Rx: Prescriptions for Living a Meaningful Life