Have compassion for the one who is provoking you. Rabbi Abraham Twerski writes that he never saw his father express rage; instead, his father would say, "The person who is provoking me doesn't understand that what he is doing is very foolish. He thinks he is wise and right. I feel sorry that he is a fool. Pity and rage do not go together. You cannot be angry at someone for whom you feel sorry."
This solution will not always work. If someone's actions threaten your well-being and/or cause you great anguish, your sense that the person is a fool might not mitigate your rage. However, this technique works for more minor irritations, of the sort that often cause us to explode.
— Joseph Telushkin in A Code of Jewish Ethics: Volume 1