The first step in healing pain is to accept it. Don't fight it, and don't cling to it, because fighting and clinging only make the pain worse. Allow the pain to be there, without rationalizing or judging. Simply let it be so, with tremendous compassion for yourself.
Say to yourself, "I am aware of the pain," and slowly you start to disidentify from it. You create a separation, and your awareness helps you transcend your pain.