Treat yourself to something special. So much of the joy of being in love involves feeling good about giving and receiving. If you give yourself a gift, regardless of how big it is or how much it costs, you will be telling yourself and the universe that you deserve to be treated well. This in turn will increase the likelihood that your relationships will be filled with generosity of heart.
Get some body work done — a facial or a massage. Give yourself an extra flair with the paisley shirt or scarf you saw in a shop window on a recent stroll through your neighborhood. Make the garment a part of your life, as you savor the fact that you can appreciate yourself the same way you can appreciate others — especially one other person.
Take a trip to the country if you live in the city, or vice versa. Spend the day shopping for unusual antiques or going to a crafts fair, or taking in the smells, sights, and sounds of a path through the woods far from the commotion and crowds of the urban scene. See how much you can do for yourself. Try to go beyond what you think of as your limits to a higher level of indulgence. Rent a moped and feel the wind on your face. Or stay in a luxury hotel for a night and order room service. If your budget requires something more modest, visit a museum and buy postcards of the works or exhibits that appeal to you.
However you choose to give yourself a treat, learn to make a habit of it. You will be sending a twofold message — that you expect to be treated this way by others and that you are prepared to cherish others the way you cherish yourself. Start today.
— Alan Epstein in How to Have More Love in Your Life