Three core values of democracy are equality, justice for all, and popular sovereignty; decisions are to be made by the people and for the people. Faith communities offer a good place to learn and model this approach to decision-making. When clergy or other congregational leaders make decisions for the congregation with little or no input from the larger group, frustration and legalities can stymie growth and creativity.

Try a different approach. Quakers practice a way of conducting business meetings which focuses on deep listening and collaborating to find a solution with which all can agree. In Listening to the Light, Jim Pym explains how to conduct a meeting in this manner:

- When an issue is introduced to the group, people are reminded to keep an open mind and a sense of prayer.
- Silence is honored along with the recognition that the group needs to trust that the Spirit is working in each issue brought up by a member.
- Deep listening is encouraged when someone speaks; all agree to speak only when prompted by the Spirit.
- After all voices are heard, the issue is summarized by the presiding clerk. If persons are still not in agreement, the decision will not be made in the meeting and patience is practiced until the next meeting. If the notes are agreed upon, then a decision is made.
- Even if the outcome isn't what every person wanted, trust builds during the process.

Another model for democratic decision-making aims for consensus. This practice also provides a way for all members' voices to be heard and honored. After listening to a variety of views, when it is time to vote, people are given the option of 4, 3, 2, or 1. Voting with a 4 means you are completely on board, no reservations; 3 means mostly on board, few reservations; 2 means on board, but with significant reservations; and 1 means not on board with the decision. No matter can move forward unless everyone is a 2, 3, or 4. The issue must continue to be discussed and everyone's concerns taken into account before a decision can move forward.

Kristin Ritzau, Jim Pym in Practicing Democracy with Your Faith Community by Kristin Ritzau, Mary Ann Brussat