Our myopic fixation on romance and sex encourages false mystification, a "fatal attraction" theory, that turns us into victims who "fall" into love due to some mysterious chemistry and fall out or fail to find love because of bad luck, childhood abuse, or "dysfunctional families." This fixation fosters a vain hope that erotic lightning will strike us from heaven and spontaneously give juice and meaning to our lives.

Sam Keen, To Love and Be Loved