The person we live with is one of the great unknowns in our life. To see them without preconceptions, in their mysteriousness, is to see them for themselves, rather than as some appendage to our own lives. And that can bring pleasure not only to us but also to them. It is liberating to be seen for who we are, an ungraspable complexity rather than a predictable list of characteristics. Clear seeing like this can even rejuvenate a flagging love.

Roger Housden in Seven Sins for a Life Worth Living