The holidays have come and gone, and I find myself feeling in limbo. I should admit something. I'm known for my no-holds-barred, over-the-top Christmas decorating. But this past year I decided to give myself a "vacation" from Christmas decorating and didn't do anything at all. I recently ran into a few of my neighbors and the first thing they asked was, "Is everything ok? We didn't see your decorations and were wondering." I assured them everything was just fine and that I just needed a little break.
Admittedly the past several years I've found it harder and harder to muster the incentive to deck the halls. I've questioned why I go to all the trouble when I live alone: Who am I really doing this for? What does it mean for me? But I somehow push through each year and am always glad I did after the fact.
And truth be told, this year I was involved in a holiday variety show and for the finale I created a Christmas tree outfit. So, after creating this I felt like I had done my part.
This year was different for other reasons. I think the mood in the United States definitely dampened my enthusiasm and spirits and I gave over to that. Instead of celebrating, I went into hibernation mode – literally. I spent Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with friends but after that I shut myself up in my apartment, closed all the blinds, wrapped myself in a blanket, and went into the darkness.
One result of this is that as we've progressed into the new year, I've found myself not quite in sync with the season. I know why now. I didn't "mark" the transition into the year in my traditional way by decorating to the rafters.
This has all been a poignant reminder about traditions and rituals. As I've heard said, ritual is the punctuation of life. And I didn't have my usual exclamation point in December! No wonder I'm feeling at sea in the new year.
It has me thinking of what other rituals I could use to help mark the holidays should I find myself wanting a break from decorating again in the future. The easiest answer: Just tone it down. But I will most likely go back to full throttle next year especially since I've bought a bunch of new ornaments. (Yay 50% end of season sales!). And once I start decorating, the momentum takes over and the whole thing has a life of its own. As a friend of mine said many years ago, "Oh, so your theme is 'It's not done till it's overdone?!' "
I don't have any ideas for myself at the moment. Now that the seed has been planted I trust some ideas will grow. But I'd love to hear from you! What are some simple rituals or traditions you do for the holidays when you don't want to go "all out?" Use the comment box below.
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