Over the past twenty years, as a psychologist and Buddhist teacher, I've worked with thousands of clients and students who have revealed how painfully burdened they feel by a sense of not being good enough . . . the fear of being flawed and unworthy.

For many of us, feelings of deficiency are right around the corner. It doesn't take much — just hearing of someone else's accomplishments, being criticized, getting into an argument, making a mistake at work — to make us feel that we are not okay.

As a friend of mine put it, "Feeling that something is wrong with me is the invisible and toxic gas I am always breathing."

Tara Brach in Radical Acceptance