“Mental soothing can happen in many forms. It might feel good to talk about life events as they are unfolding. Some people find comfort in talking about ailments that others have instead of focusing on their own. Soothing can also happen with turning away from the painful challenges at hand.
“Here are some additional suggestions:
“Cover or remove mirrors if the dying person prefers not to see their reflection. As we die, our appearance changes and our perception of our appearance changes. In addition, clinging to how we look and who we are is not particularly helpful when dying.
“Is there something the dying person needs to share with someone? Take notes and deliver messages. If desired, a 'timed-release' plan can be implemented (meaning the note will be delivered after the person has died).
“Does the dying person have any last wishes? Maybe a trip to India was what your loved one always wanted. With technology, one can travel far without leaving the bed. Watching a live cam in India or having a conversation with someone there might be possible! Turn on traditional Indian music or have someone play live in the room. Bring in a specially prepared chai or dish with aromatic rice, curry, and coconut milk. Even if the person is no longer eating, just the music and smells of the spices might make them feel that they got one step closer. Think creatively about what you have and what is possible.”
