“The ability to create more (love, life, art) will increase as you are less caught up in feeding, protecting, and projecting your insecurities. The willingness to experiment in playful relational curiosity, to not identify with what we are doing, to be open to the unknown — these are essential practices of the erotic creative. But how do we do it? How do we make a shift from insecurity to confidence? From closed off and controlling to playful and creative? How do we make the process of creating ‘feel’ as good as we hope the outcomes will be?
“Sex is a great illustration of how the process is the product. Sure, climax shimmers on the horizon of your awareness. You know it, and your partner knows it, and you’re both (hopefully) intent on arousing and serving each other’s pleasure, seeking the release in the other. But the nature of the mounting orgasmic pleasure is both a 'here' and 'coming' reality. The more you are fully savoring the embodied luscious 'here,' the more shattering the 'coming' is.”
