This book is special in how it applies Buddhist spirituality and philosophy to everyday life. More common are books about Buddhism that feel like something you’d use alone on a retreat; this is, rather, Buddhism in the messiness of life.
It is also a guide to loving, partnered relationships with a shared commitment to Buddhist spirituality. The tone is upbeat and positive, even when discussing problems that couples have.
The authors are married, and they clearly define themselves that way — so much so that they’re listed on the book’s front cover: “Devon + Nico Hase.” They are both meditation teachers. Devon is a former monk, and Nico is also a professional psychologist with a PhD. Some of the chapters in their book — the first and last two of the eight — focus on partnered relationships in ways that might feel alienating for those who are not partnered. This is book aimed mostly at people in love, seeking love, or wanting help in love relationships.
This comes through in the spiritual practices throughout the book, too. This is a book all about love, listening, and enthusiasm. There are terrific practices: Some are meditation-focused, others journaling-focused, and a third category is called “partner exercises,” which the authors say are to “help you build connection, presence, and playfulness with your lover.”
These partner practices are most original when they aim to help couples find fresh ways of love-making and energy-sharing. (See the excerpt accompanying this review for a sample.)
