"Respect is love in plain clothes, someone once said, and so is acceptance and understanding and really being known. And when someone really understands what makes you who you are, they've made a friend for life. And so does someone who values you just the way you are.
"There are people who idealize others as a way of solacing themselves, and others who keep you on a treadmill, auditioning for their approval, but always seem to keep the approval strangely in reserve. And there are people who seem to always be in crisis, needing you to continually reassure them, but it's hard to find a person who gives as good as they get or one who loves you for your self."