Before we go meet someone, we usually ponder about how we are going to answer if he or she says this or that, and we think about going to certain places with him or her. However, when we actually meet the person, so many times we learn that our pondering was useless, and the situation ends up being totally different from what we had expected. Every time your mind ponders, imagining what is going to happen, surrender those thoughts. Instead of following such drifting thoughts, if you keep surrendering those thoughts and reach the nondual state, you might become aware of what is actually going to happen in your meeting. Your mind becomes brighter, giving you the appropriate answers to the other person's questions. Also, your mind's power becomes clear and strong enough to help put him or her at ease.
— Jae Woong Kim, Polishing the Diamond, Enlightening the Mind by Jae Woong Kim, Yoon Sang Han, translator