We're all struggling to forgive someone, and hate feeling fractured within our significant relationships and within ourselves. We are all searching for an answer, some new approach, that frees us from the corrosive effects of hate, gives voice to the injustice, and helps us to make peace with the person who hurt us and with ourselves.

For those of you who have done wrong, I encourage you . . . to muster up the honesty, maturity, and strength of character to reach out to the person you have hurt and make an earnest, bighearted effort to win her forgiveness. If you accept the challenge, I doubt you'll be sorry.

For those of you who have been wronged, I encourage you to take care of yourself, be fair, and seek life-serving ways to cleanse your intimate wound.

Janis Abrahms Spring, How Can I Forgive You?