When you pull back in closure, you create the distress of ongoing separation and perpetuate the anguish of unlove. Your disgust and loathing are natural emotional responses; separating your feeling heart, pulling away from those who disgust you, is the additional act of unlove, the original moment of deep suffering.
When you look into the eyes of those who most disturb you, practice feeling the openness behind the face of their fear and distress. Whether they are on TV or standing in front of you, no matter how closed or twisted they may be acting, feel through their pained expressions into their yearning heart. Their moment is open as yours, though they may be closing, unwilling to open as love, and therefore they are suffering the denial of love's openness.
— David Deida, Blue Truth