Indeed, the greatest gift of an intimate relationship is that it can give you you. It's an opportunity to discover yourself in the presence of the reflecting emotions of another person. In the mirroring of another person's awareness and, at times, through his or her frustrating lack of awareness, you will come to see yourself. It is in this intimate human context that you begin to discover what you really do feel, what's important to you, what delights you, what has troubled you always, and what's troubling you now.
— Daphne Rose Kingma, 101 Ways to Have True Love in Your Life