Try to imagine what it would be like if the urgency of your desires simply went away. What if your life were just about as it is now, but your desires turned to simple wishes? No longer a loud demand for something that feels urgent, just a quiet wish for something not there.

Personally, what I want is not to want. In the time I have left, I want to be where I am, whether it is good or bad. I know I'll never get there, but that's what I want. . . .

When we have loosened our grasp a bit for what we desire, the wanting turns into a longing, and then into a dull ache.. . .

I don't know if this is true for all humans, but I have found that serenity increases as I learn to live comfortably with my longing.

Daniel Gottlieb in Learning from the Heart