Hidden within every wound we always find a particular blessing. If we blame ourselves for our personality patterns, we cannot access the gift contained within them and thus only impoverish ourselves further. Whatever we are struggling with, whatever seems most neurotic, can become an important stepping-stone on our way. Whatever problem, question, or confusion we have, whatever seems impossible in our lives — if we go toward it, see it, feel it, make a relationship with it, use it —becomes our path.
— John Welwood, Toward a Psychology of Awakening