Perhaps this will put off a lot of people, but I am afraid love is not really the experience of beauty and romantic joy alone. Love is associated with ugliness and pain and aggression, as well as with the beauty of the world; it is not the recreation of heaven. Love or compassion, the open path, is associated with "what is." In order to develop love — universal love, cosmic love, whatever you would like to call it — one must accept the whole situation of life as it is, both the light and the dark, the good and the bad. One must open oneself to life, communicate with it.
— Chogyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by Chogyam Trungpa, John Baker, editor, Marvin Casper, editor