"The family, then, is not a sanctuary cut off from the rest of society, not a secluded preserve, but a training ground for life in community, in village or clan or tribe. If there is to be a vigorous community for children to join, the family must also provide, in Gary Snyder's phrase, 'the Practice Hall' for adults as well, a place where men and women perform the ceremonies of mutual aid, amuse and challenge one another, share comfort and love. By all these measures, a good family is one that encourages the full flowering of parents; that cherishes grandparents as carriers of wisdom; that nourishes children in body and mind and soul, and prepares them to enter the world as responsible and competent adults."