"Being unhealthy as persons — being less than whole — is like living alone in a small room with the windows shuttered with only slits of light coming through," write the Malones, a father-son team of Atlanta psychiatrists and authors of The Art of Intimacy.

With a startling array of examples, the authors explore the "Selficide" (self-destruction) and the "transitional relearning" which must take place on the way out of this soul-stunting room. To retain a proper balance between self and others, the authors discuss fourteen "windows of experience" which can bring a person back to wholeness. Some of these pathways toward spiritual well-being are acceptance, self-discipline, naturalness, play, risking, presence, and connectedness.