Lila Sophia Tresemer is a group facilitator, ceremonialist, and transdenominational minister. Her husband David is a psychologist associate professor, and author of numerous books. Together they founded the StarHouse spiritual learning center in Boulder, Colorado. They have written a handy paperback guide to a sacred personalized marriage ceremony and a testament to the qualities needed to create and sustain a conscious partnership. For more on their work visit

The authors see the wedding ceremony as a gateway to a meaningful marriage. Anyone nervous about planning this pivotal ritual is sure to benefit from reading their suggestions. They explore some of the central questions couples can discuss together before moving on to the tools and perspectives necessary in the design of a wedding. The last section of the book addresses how marriages can be given new life by a ceremony of rededication.