The abler soul is a path of true love, but not in the way we commonly think of it — intensely, passionately romantic — but rather true in the sense that it conforms to and reveals the authentic pattern of each partner's soul — and this is the key to the whole idea. During life, the innate sense of wholeness between the partners makes for an unusual ease and comfort in their relationship. And after death, if the groundwork has been adequately laid, it offers the one clear window of opportunity acknowledged in our tradition (however obliquely) for continued mutual soulwork.
— Cynthia Bourgeault, Love Is Stronger than Death