There is an ancient tale about a warrior in quest of a magical sword that will make him invincible. Along the way he meets by chance a wise old master who gives him a set of spiritual disciplines to follow. The warrior pursues them diligently for years. Then one day the magical sword finally appears to him, as promised. But as he grasps the hilt, he realizes that the spiritual practices have worked; he no longer cares about the powers the sword would give him.

So with schema work. As we recover from the spell of schemas [storage systems of emotional learning], the old yearnings they created fall away. We no longer need what we had sought. Our perspective opens to wider possibilities.

Tara Bennett-Goleman, Emotional Alchemy