How we relate to adverse conditions is our choice. No one else has that power over us. This resiliency of mind is also a powerful tool in unraveling our schema conditioning. Other people's actions are one thing, but how we respond and are affected by those actions is within our power to change. This flexible, resilient quality of mind — all the "helpful inner circumstances" — can be cultivated through mindfulness practice.
— Tara Bennett-Goleman, Emotional Alchemy