If angry drivers want to pass us in haste, let them. Where they're going is not the Way. Zen lies in saying, "After you." To act courteously and selflessly, to put the needs of others before our own, is to live with the compassion that blooms from true spiritual practice. . . .
Through the simple courtesy of saying, "After you," we begin to calm the mind and eliminate the feeling of rushing. We start to flow with the traffic, not fight it. "Flowing streams do not compete with one another," the zen masters say.
— Philip Toshio Sudo, Zen 24/7