Self-hatred stands as an insuperable obstacle to growth and maturity. It derails interaction with others and renders us impotent to give or receive love. The self-condemning memory selects only negative recollections. Previous kindnesses and thoughtful gestures are perceived as vitiated by self-seeking. All other emotions are blocked out, and a sense of personal worthlessness prevails. We become more closed, less communicative, less comfortable to be around. If prevailed upon to speak, we express deep disappointment at our lack of spiritual progress and dwell on the unlikelihood of future improvement. Caring for others is existentially impossible because we cannot be compassionate towards ourselves!

Brennan Manning, A Glimpse of Jesus