The Sufi alchemists cultivated an ability to radiate love wholeheartedly, unconditionally, from the deepest part of themselves. Do not confuse this type of love with what people call "codependency." It is a natural, glowing, "sunny disposition." At times, we shine because we can't help it, because our light comes from a deeper source. This feeling causes a pregnant woman to glow from within, with the warmth of new life.
Like the other pathways of the heart, the Sufi would say that this "sun of love" is already a part of one's own inner being. It lies waiting to be discovered. In the Arabic language, this word for love comes from the word for womb. This creative love and energy shine naturally from the deepest place inside us. We don't need to try. Each time we feel it, it's like giving birth to a new sense of ourselves.
— Neil Douglas-Klotz, The Sufi Book of Life