You are not going to disarm everybody by being kind, even Mahatma Gandhi couldn't do that. By returning good for evil you are not going to win over everybody. You will win over a lot of people, but there will still be a few who will try to be hostile to you. So in order to forgive completely, you must develop the capacity of being so utterly secure that you don't get disturbed by other people making attacks on you.

Eknath Eswaran, How To End Suffering by Dolores Wood