We lay aside our patterns of middle-way eating by serving the needs of the guest first and then taking care of ourselves. We might eat more or less, depending on how we provide for them. We might eat again, so they do not have a meal alone. We might serve the best and join them in our finest treats, or we might silently serve them what we had intended to eat for ourselves. All rules are in the service of the Guest who is God. Hospitality again is a way of discernment, using the other's needs rather than our own as the criteria for eating and drinking.

Mary Margaret Funk, Humility Matters