It is the recognition that there is a bonding given by God which is deeper than our feelings;
that our "enemy" too has a place in the community, the family, the church or society;
the "enemy" has a right to live and to flourish.
Jesus has called the "enemy" to a specific place and has given him or her specific gifts
which I should respect.
Forgiveness is a long process
that begins with this respect for the other; for the "enemy".

Jean Vanier in Befriending the Stranger