How do we respond to a world that seems out of control? The world seems that way because it is out of control — the sun rises whether we want it to or not, the toaster breaks, someone cuts you off on your way to work. We've never had control. We have the illusion of control when things go the way we think they should. And when they don't, we say we've lost control, and we long for some sort of enlightened state beyond all this, where we imagine we'll have control again. But what we really want is peace. We think that by having control or becoming "enlightened" (and no one knows what that means) we'll find peace.

Byron Katie in A Thousand Names for Joy