We act with compassion and kindness because we want to be the kind of people who do, not because we have an expectation that it will have a certain effect. When we are invested in outcomes, we will inevitably be disappointed: the person won't necessarily be healed by our kind gesture; the world won't be "fixed" by our grand effort. So long as we are focused on outcomes, we will not receive the deepest benefit of our actions — that resonant feeling that reminds us that, if only for that moment, we are all one.

Will Glennon, Practice Random Acts of Kindness by Editors of Random Acts of Kindness