You have to protect yourself and your beloved ones by practicing selective watering. You say, "Darling, if you really care for me, if you really love me, please do not water the negative seeds in me every day. If you do, I'll be very unhappy, and if I'm unhappy, I'll make you unhappy. So please, please don't water the seeds of anger, intolerance, irritation, or despair in me. And I promise not to water these seeds in you . . . . I vow only to water the positive in you — the seeds of love, compassion, and understanding."
— Thich Nhat Hanh, Anger