If you are drawn to a "bad boy," it is probably a sign that you are too diligent and dutiful in your life. Perhaps you try so hard to be good that the other side needs to be heard to balance your life. . . .

The more invested and rigid you are about clinging to your conscious positions, the more vulnerable you will be to invasions of the shadow. The repressed energy then shows up as a sudden love affair, an embarrassing fit of rage, or other indiscretions. Unlived life will find its way out, whether in unconscious acts, projections upon others. psychological disturbances, such as anxiety or depression, or as somatic illness.

Robert A. Johnson, Jerry M. Ruhl, Living Your Unlived Life