Lama Zopa Rinpoche presents mind training techniques that will enable you to transform problems into happiness. Here is a piece on the spiritual practice of teachers.
"It is the nature of the mind to become addicted to certain ways of seeing things. By habitually seeing as a problem every tiny thing that does not accord exactly with our self-cherishing wishes, we exaggerate small things into huge problems. If we see even small sufferings as big problems and get irritated by them, we become unceasingly overwhelmed by a heavy, unhappy mind. It then becomes extremely difficult for us to bear any problem whatsoever. Everything appears threatening. Everything appears unsatisfying. . . .
"Not realizing that this is our own doing, that we have trained our mind to this negative way of thinking, we point to external things — other beings or circumstances — as the source of our problems. The more we think that our problems come from outside, the more our anger arises. Like a fire blazing as we pour more and more oil on it, our anger blazes higher and higher, bringing greater negative karma; then unbearably great anger arises, bringing even heavier negative karma. We become angry at everything that appears to our senses, everyone and everything we see. This state is known in the Buddhist teachings as 'all appearances arising as the enemy.'
"What is the alternative to this state? The great eleventh-century meditator Milarepa is normally pictured keeping his right hand at his ear in a gesture of listening. This is because everything appeared to Milarepa in the form of advice; everything appeared as a teaching. For skillful meditators with well-trained minds, instead of all appearances arising as the enemy, they actually appear as the opposite: as a friend and a teacher. Instead of disturbing us, everything appears as beneficial and supportive."
