• "Grief is what living beings experience when what or whom they love dies or disappears.
  • "Grief is not what people feel when they lose what they want, or lose what they want to happen, or when they don't get what they think they deserve. This is only disappointment. Not the same at all (very important not to confuse with grief).
  • "Grief is natural: to grieve the loss of what we love is as natural as peeing, eating, singing, dreaming, running, or looking under rocks for bugs to feed your frog.
  • "More importantly, grieving is necessary: when there is real loss, grieving should never be avoided or postponed; grieving is absolutely necessary. Without grief the world would cease to renew itself; the world would cease to exist.
  • "Grief is not a preference, for choosing to not have grief when grief is there is to defer and burden someone else with having to do your grieving. This makes the world a sick place.
  • "Grief is an obligation to the life one has been awarded, an obligation to life to make more life.
  • "To truly and freely grieve as an entire people can revive an entire culture just as much as it can bring back to life an individual.
  • "The necessity of active grieving when there is the deep loss of what we love can be done in many ways; it can take many forms, but is lost when it is simply a theatrical act, choreographed to mimic grief.
  • "Grief permeates life and grieving can take many forms, but grief can never be outrun or simply thought away, transcended or meditated into nonexistence. Necessary grief when shunned or unattended can easily hide for years, even generations, in the skeletal structure of the family collective psyche. Like light, matter, sound, and energy, grief will eventually manifest even among those in the future who did not consciously experience the loss.
  • 'So, best to grieve when it's time, to save the world a lot of war and trouble.
  • "Grieving is a sacred art, not an art whose products should be sold or seen objectively. Grieving is an art that when it is fully known and made to actively happen in all its grandeur and integrity, is the backbone of all real peace. It is the art of all arts; it is the art behind all real art."