Marty Klein has spent three decades working with couples and individuals on improving their sex lives and relationships. He brings wisdom and insight through his experiences as a certified sex therapist, sex educator, marriage and family therapist. In this easily accessible paperback he begins with a real grabber: "Sex isn't just an activity — it's an idea." We all know that but have been afraid to admit it. Take a moment and draw up a mental list of things you want most from sex. You might be surprised what comes up.
What most people want out of sex is "some combination of pleasure and closeness." Now there's something we can digest easily enough. Over the years Klein has discovered that people want to be considered sexually desirable, competent in sex, and free from performance anxiety. But instead of focusing on these views, he offers another way of thinking about sex:
"Sexual intelligence is the set of internal resources that allows you to relax, be present, communicate, respond to stimulation, and create physical and emotional connection with a partner. When you can do that, you'll have enjoyable sexual experiences, regardless of what your body does."
Klein covers the three components of sexual intelligence: your brain (information and knowledge), your heart (emotional skills), and your body (awareness and comfort). This is followed by concrete advice on dealing with obstacles to sexual intelligence, embracing health and aging challenges, and much more. Sexual Intelligence by Marty Klein contains wise and practical advice on sex.
