Make a list of all the demands you place on others, and on yourself, to be a certain way.

Make a list of that which you cling to in relationships, what you feel you couldn't get along without.

As you begin the practice of letting go, you may feel uneasy. But as you continue, these feelings will subside and will be replaced by the taste of a new kind of love.

Day by day, let go of one thing that you cling to, including a person. Let go of your attachment to him or her. Stop trying to change, control, and cling to that person. Let everything be as it is between you. See what happens as you do.

As this practice progresses, you will notice that you are experiencing more enjoyment and well-being in relationships and also making room for new people to be attracted to you as well.

Expand the list of what you are attached to and what you can let go of now.

Expand the list of individuals you are willing to offer the space to be who they are.

Practice this on a daily basis.

See your life burst into bloom.

Brenda Shoshanna in Jewish Dharma