Here is a ritual to put the problems you may be having with your partner into a spiritual context. Light a candle for clarity. Burn a stick of incense to sweeten your mood. For ten to fifteen minutes sit quietly in a chair and visualize or imagine your partner's higher self or guardian angel standing before you. Clear your mind and heart, and think about nothing in particular, except how peaceful it can be to sit within the companionship of your partner's higher spirit. When a thought arises, let it go, and bring your attention back to the spiritual energy that comes from this image of your partner. Do this every day, or as often as you can. Try to recall this feeling, especially when you are together and not getting along with each other.

Tom Cowan in The Way of the Saints